Dealing with a Problematic Bridesmaid

When dealing with problem bridesmaids, I have one word for you, Compromise. When facing a problem, just remember to be compassionate. It may be your wedding, but you still have your bridesmaid's feelings to consider.

One of the most common causes of distress between a bride and her bridesmaids is the dress. You know the stereotype, big poufy bubblegum colored dress that some poor girl is forced to wear for a few hours then buries deep in her closet. When choosing the dress, put yourself in her shoes. Would you want to wear your selection? More importantly, can they afford it? You may have very different budgets from each other. At great compromise is to tell the girls you will pick the color, and allow them to choose the style that is most flattering, and is the most appropriate price. You both get just want you want, it is the perfect solution!

A good bridesmaid embodies the same qualities as a great friend, after all that is why you chose her. When accepting the position of bridesmaid for a dear friend, most girls understand that they are taking on a large responsibility. In addition to normal girlfriend support, the bridesmaid is expected to participate in planning the wedding, decorations, set up, and on and on and on. What the bride needs to remember is that there is no rule for who you are required to put in you wedding party. You don't need to include someone as a bridesmaid just because she put you in her wedding, or your cousin just because she is family. Chose your best friends who have already supported you though the difficult, stressful, and joyous moments in your life. Remember that this is a stressful time for her too, and if she is still not measuring up just gently remind her of your needs.

If you experience turmoil always remember to be honest. Set some time aside to discuss your individual issues with each other. After a heart to heart you will more than likely be good as new and ready to move on with the wedding preparations.

In a worst case scenario, you can always ask that your friend step down as bridesmaid. If someone turns out to be a bad bridesmaid chances are they were not such a good friend either.

Above all else remember that it is your special day. Relax and remember that you are surrounded by your best friends, your bridesmaids!